How often do we make judgments based on what we see? I believe social media has added to this thinking error, don’t you think?
What if — instead of judging things by what we see (or think we see) — we make our judgments based on what we feel?
What our intuition is telling us. What that deeper, invisible sense is picking up.
Speaking of judging books, this message was inspired by an email I received from my book publisher. It seems that my publishing company — the one that did such a great job supporting me to write the book and marketed it to be a #1 best seller on Amazon in the business section. That one.
Is going bankrupt. Oh, Man! That was a big shock.
Or was it?
I initially had a great experience with this publisher. As I said, they were very supportive of me as I wrote the book and did a great job marketing during the launch. Then I started to notice things that seemed off. They were missing meetings we had set up, not getting back to me on certain things, avoiding answering important questions.
Yet, I kept right on judging the Book publisher by the Cover they were presenting on the surface. I complained about how they dropped a promotion we had planned. I felt jilted by the missed meetings. I was perplexed by the sudden lack of communication.
Yes, I was picking up the signals, but I was reading them all wrong. By the Cover. Not by what was inside of ME.
It is so easy to do that, isn’t it!
I brought up social media earlier because I know I judge people to be successful by what I see there at times. Only to find out they are in despair, going through a divorce, or putting up a false front.
Sometimes I simply MAKE UP how I think others are fairing. Connecting my own dots. Especially the dots that have me feeling less than. Comparisons that have me coming up short.
I have been working on this for a long time! I have come a long way and, most often, I catch this stupid (and very human!) way of comparing and judging others and myself.
It is still a work in progress, as I just learned from this experience with my publisher. Am I shocked? Yes. Did I see it coming? No, I did not SEE it coming.
But I felt it and I sensed it and when I check in with that ever-wise, intuitive part of myself, I know that the signs were there.
It helps me to lighten up and commit to continuing my quest to listen more to that quiet voice and make my decisions from that place — as often as I can.
I encourage you to listen more and look less. Tune into that guidance and turn off the judgment.