These are not fairy tale affirmations….they work!
“Positive thoughts are not fairy tale affirmations” is the name we gave to Chapter 7 in my book…The Soul Search.
As I sat staring at my computer screen wondering what on earth could be worth writing about under such challenging times, a thought came to me very clearly.
The soul search process that this book teaches is exactly what people need right now!
It’s a process that includes a way of experiencing all the natural feelings that arise during a crisis such as this pandemic… as well as offering a way to move to higher ground where new opportunities can be seen and good choices can be made.
This is not magical thinking!
Believe me…I do believe in Magic, but I am also as practical as they come. I don’t care if it’s through magic, hard work or facing a reality I would rather hide under the covers from.
I always believe there is a way forward and that I have a choice to take it… or not.
In my book, I tell the story of the choices I made one terrifying night when a mass murderer held a gun to my head… choices that allowed me to live to tell the tale.
Today I feel there is something similar happening on a much larger scale. Worldwide.
The lesson I learned at that moment is no different than what you and I are facing today. There is always a choice we can make with our attitude, perspective, thoughts, and feelings, no matter what we face.
Another memory floated up as I thought of the so-called “fairy tale affirmations” that have worked wonders for me.
It’s much lighter than the “gun to the head” memory!
I was a 27-year-old mother of two young children working at a job I really didn’t like, but it paid the bills – so was a necessity in my life at the time. My husband had gone through a rough patch with his business and we were barely crawling out of a financial hole.
I was unhappy with the job, the pay, the hours… and the people I worked with were not the ones I wanted to be with.
With the job, the little kids and all my responsibilities, the thought of spending time looking for a new job just didn’t’ seem feasible. SO…
One day I decided it was time to use an affirmation to bring about the change I was seeking.
It went something like this:
“I want a job where I make twice my current income by working half the time doing something I love.”
I wrote down a couple of things that would be included in the job I loved.
- Good hours so I could be with my family
- Double my current weekly income
- My results count more than the hours I work
Then I added the things that would have me doing a happy dance!
- A rare occasion at the time was being alone in my car with the radio blasting. That would be fun!
- A personal growth experience where I could learn more from people like Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra, and Marianne Williamson and other inspiring authors whom I admired and longed to emulate.
There was not one single job description that I could imagine including all five of these elements.
Nevertheless, I took on this quest with faith in my affirmation and the power of intention!
I spoke my affirmation out loud to myself, my family and my friends. I spoke with confidence that those I trusted would at least humor me! I spoke it with power and conviction.
One day, as I was working at my job as an optometrist, an acquaintance walked in looking for new glasses. As I showed her a variety of frames, we talked about our lives.
At one point, my affirmation just tripped off my lips.
She looked me right in the eye and said, “I know of a job opening that might interest you.”
I applied the next day and was happily ensconced in this new position by the end of the month!
The job was working as a substitute mail carrier in a beautiful rural area of Pennsylvania.
It paid more than twice as much as my current job.
It required me to work half as much… with the option of working longer hours if I chose.
- The hours worked out perfectly with my family
- I got to drive around all by myself with the radio blasting
- I got to listen to my personal growth gurus for hours every day!
This one job led to so many wonderful opportunities that I could never have imagined when I came up with my affirmation.
I climbed the corporate ladder at the good ole USPS and, in the end, was introduced to coaching for an executive team I was on.
This led to my current career for the past 20 years!
I believe we all need some positive affirmations right now… don’t you think?
Many of the coaches I work with have asked me how I think they can help our world in this moment. What can they bring to their clients that will help them face these uncertain times?
An affirmation… not a fairy tale… is simply a positive thought you hold in your mind and speak out loud… a thought that opens up you up to new possibilities that your mind just can’t fathom.
It can be really simple like: “I am doing my best and that is good enough.”
What kind of affirmation comes to your mind today that could help you not only survive this challenging time but to find new possibilities for yourself and others?
I would love to know what you come up with, so please drop me a line.
If you would like inspiration from my book you can find it on Kindle for just $.99!
All the Best, Kat
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We will be better people on the other side of this. We will hold a whole new level of gratitude for the simple personal connections with each other. We will cherish our friends and families like never before. We will have seen clearer skies and cleaner waters And we will recognize that we are capable of far more than we ever dared to imagine.
Love your article, Kat. Stay safe and be well.